Parenting
Perspectives on Parenting©
by Nancy Lambert Davenport
Nancy Davenport's Column:
For Richardson News 08-20-00
Copyright Nancy Lambert Davenport 2000
"Parents can sway kids' speech skills: Can we talk here?"
There is a page in my journal that I wrote many years ago.
It was a prayer for patience in listening to my daughter's constant chatter. She was 3.
Not many years later, when her brother Austin was the same age, I found myself praying daily that he would learn to
put more words together when he communicates.
I am sure God was shaking his head in dismay at my fickleness. Happily, he answered both prayers mightily.
We do all want our children to be able to communicate, but sometimes children don't pick up those skills as
quickly as we'd like.
They may need some help and encouragement.
James D. MacDonald, in his two home activity books, Before Speech and First Words, made these
suggestions:
- Play frequently with your child. Be sure you both are involved equally in the activity.
- Wait for your child to talk. Give him tithe to respond. Don't do all the talking.
- Respond to your child's sounds and actions for what they are - communication.
- Match your child's actions and communications with similar ones. Mimic him. Play with sounds back and
forth.
- Translate your child's language of sounds and movements into a word.
- Don't rush your child to words. Communicating with sounds comes first.
- Show him what to say in one or two words. Many young children can't process many sounds at once anyway,
so he might as well hear the important ones.
- Reduce your number of questions, especially ones that require yes/no answers. Show your child what to say
instead.
- Be a living dictionary. Put words to your child's experiences as they happen. You are translating his language
into yours.
- Once he is talking some, respond less to his gestures and more to his sounds.
- Accept any pronunciation at first. Work the correct pronunciation into your words without it seeming like a
correction. Stress the sound that needs changing when you use that sound.
Once you are sure he is physically capable of saying a sound correctly, insist upon it patiently through small steps
of progress.
Your saying nothing tells him the pronunciation is correct.
- When he is using one word at a time with frequency, begin adding important second words. Graduate from
"dog" to "want dog." Use sign language as a bridge.
- Although you are his best. play partner, not his teacher, be convinced that you as the parent are your child's
best speech teacher.
When you make it fun, he will want to stay and learn.
For price lists of MacDonald's books and newsletters, e-mail him at macdonald.3@osu.edu for an order form.
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